BOOSTING YOUR SPIRIT

AND HAVING THE EXPERIENCE OF JOY THIS HOLIDAY SEASION

 

Can you imagine going through this Holiday Season with the over-flowing feeling of joy and love?

Of course you can!

In fact, you can have it all and celebrate!

And just because you may have tried and been unsucessful in the past, doesn’t mean you can’t … now.

If you live each new day with the intention to create a joyful outcome, you will be successful.

 

Ask yourself what is more important:

Holding onto the things in the past that have gotten in the way of your having the experiencing of joy OR,

Letting go of the things that have limited you, and appreciate being alive so you can experience the love for yourself and others?

You can do it!

All it takes is practice and determination and allowing the love that you are to fill every fiber of your being – and let go of the fear of expressing it.

 

Much love to you during this most joyous holiday seasion,

Dr. Shelley

Founder and CEO

 

“Your joyful living connection”

The thing is, though, you’re not going to have a relationship that works handed to you on a silver platter.   And the knight in shining armor only exists in fantasyland.  But you probably already knew that!

So let’s talk about the real world and how you can turn your relationship into a true partnership.

Let’s begin with where you are.

How often have you said to yourself,  ’If only I could get him to change, then everything would be better.’  But no matter how much you try to change him, have you noticed that whatever you’ve been doing isn’t working and you are both still reacting the same way, over and over again.

The problem is you’re trying to fix something that isn’t broken.  Your relationship has become an entanglement. 

So rather than focusing on the dilemna, here’s what you can begin to do to change it.

First, let’s define the difference between a relationship and a true partnership:

A relationship focuses on the needs of the individuals.  It focuses on the details of the relationship, the money, the kids, the car that has to be fixed, who’s going to do what, when and where, and when something goes wrong in the relationship, who’s at fault and what needs to be fixed.  You can probably see that there’s not a whole lot of satisfaction down that road.

A true partnership is focused on passionate creativity, which puts you on a path of mutual support where the interests of both partners are honored and respected.  This creates a profound sense of love and joy that you can use as a foundation to begin to experience a great partnership.

Isn’t that why you went into the relationship to begin with?

Let me share a story with you about a woman I supported who turned her relationship around.

Some time ago, this client came to me and told me that her relationship was in shambles.  No matter what she did she couldn’t get him to communicate about the things that weren’t working.  In fact he would comment, ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about.  Everything is just fine.’  

How many times have you heard your partner say that to you?

As I listened, I realized that even though they had been married for many years, she had no idea who he was.  So I asked her, “Other than his work and the kids, what is he passionate about in his life?”  She said, “I don’t know.”  I told her to go home and find out.

A couple of weeks later she came back and told me that a miracle had happened.  She said that one night they talked for hours about what was really important to him. 

I said, ‘That’s a great start.  Now go back and talk about what you want to create together.’

The next time she came to my office, I looked at her with great expectation and said, ‘More miracles, huh?’

She said with her eyes sparkling,  “Yeah, I can’t believe how close we’ve gotten just planning what we want to accomplish together.  I really feel connected to him like we did when we first got married.”

I commented, ”Congratulations!  Now you’re experiencing a true partnership.  All you have to do is keep going and don’t stop.”

 

 Here are three steps you can take to begin to turn your relationship into a true partnership:

-  Discover what you are passionate about and what your partner is passionate about.

-  Find out what you want to create together, that will heighten the experience of the love and joy you have together.

-  Take actions that will support both of you in creating what you want individually and as a partnership.

 

And remember - keep practicing and don’t stop.  It is your birthright to have it all in your relationships.

 

Much love to you.

 

Dr. Shelley

Founder & CEO

“Your joyful living connection”

  

Creating a life you love is simpler that you think.

Transform every day real-life challenges with ease.

To begin, you must let go of the things you are doing that prevent you from having everything you want in your life.  How many times have you said to yourself, ‘Gee, I’m a smart person, I’m doing all the right things, how come I still have the same issues no matter what I do?  And how many times have you heard that that’s just the way life is – you can’t change it.

But what if they’re wrong?

What if you had the tools to let go of the situations that limit your ability to take charge?

I want to share a story with you about one of the women who came to my Power of Woman Seminar.  This is what she said:

“We always perceive ourselves as separate from the one we are in conflict with.  We see them as being wrong and ourselves as being right.  I could either let go of the illusion of separation with my husband or I could remain in the illusion and feel lonely, fearful and in pain.

Let me give you an example:

One day my husband and I were in the kitchen talking.  The discussion lead to an argument and the argument lead to great anger on my part.  I could literally feel the anger building up inside.  It would have been easy for me to say something that would be very wounding.  After all, I had to be right!  I had to be the ‘wounder,’ not the ‘wounded.’

Instead of immediately reacting, I did something different.  I excused myself and told my husband I’d be right back.  When I was alone, I said to myself, ‘I’m going to use some of the tools I learned at the Power of Woman Seminar.’  I took a deep breath, looked in the mirror, and began to release the overpowering feeling of anger.  I began to feel that no matter what my outer self was experiencing, my inner me was saying,

‘I am peace, I am perfect, I am love.’

As the veil of the illusion lifted, I saw my husband in a new light – that he was perfect and he was love as well.

My husband must have picked up on my changed energy, because when I came back into the kitchen, he was no longer angry either.  We had a new conversation.  We spoke about how we felt.  We let go of our old way of reacting.  This was the turning point in our marriage.”

Clearly, this woman chose peace and love over conflict, and had the passion and commitment to change what wasn’t working, and applied the tools she learned in the Power of Woman Seminar to make those changes.

Here are 3 steps this woman took that you can take, too:

 -       Feel the reaction you are having to a conflict. 

 -       Consciously release the feeling of your reaction.

 -       Create what you really want to experience.

 Don’t give yourself an ‘out.’  It is your birthright to have it all!

Much love to you,

Dr. Shelley, Founder & CEO

“Your Joyful Living Connection”